orthodoxgladness:

If we cannot help our neighbor with anything, and our heart hurts from this, then we give a person alms of the highest order: we give alms with the blood of our heart. – St. Paisios the Athonite

Feel the draw of your neighbor – what his soul is asking of you. Do not hide. Do not justify. Listen. And feel. Once you feel his soul then you will know what it is to love. And even more, when you feel his soul and know you cannot help – then you can also feel his pain.