Do not despair, thinking that you cannot change yourself after so many years. Simply enter into the presence of Jesus as you are and ask Him to give you a fearless heart where He can be with you. You cannot make yourself different. Jesus came to give you a new body. Let Him transform you by His love and so enable you to receive His affection in your whole being.
Henri Nouwen, The Inner Voice of Love
First comes God. Then comes us. If we believe that we have the power to change ourselves alone, we will be saddened of soul. We will despair claiming “I am a failure!” And it is true. I am a failure. But God is not.
God wants us to come to Him. To want Him. To love Him. If we approach God and look up at Him. At the cross. He will meet us there. And change us. Transform us.
Then we can begin to act. And act with confidence.